Inspirational Motivation

I just really love my family  (especialy the 2 girls- my daughter and my soon to be step daughter)
I get so frustrated with my fiance at times.  I keep reminding myself that I have to either really accept his good and try and work through the bad stuff or call this quits
I can't call it quits.   I love his daughter too much and I know that without me,  she has a mom and dad that really don't do anything with her  :-(*((((
His daughter's grandparents (maternal side) do alot with her  - which I am thankful for
but I just can't change her mom and the way she believes in raising a child and teaching her morals
and I can't make my fiance be closer
I try to keep in my mind the whole story

It is a long story but I don't think my fiance ever had the beginning chance to bond with his child  (His daughter's mom left him when she was 3 months pregnant for another guy that she was cheating on my fiance with)  She is caucasian, He is caucasian, her other boyfriend was african american)  Well she thought the baby was his ( her boyfriend's)  Well, the baby was born caucasian so she knew my fiance was the father and she sued him for child support  (which is fine-  we pay that) and I love her as if she was own)

Her mom uses her as a weapon-  I can't stand it

Is anyone else in this situation (whereas the kid is used as a weapon)  HELP PLEASE

I have had to walk my fiance through numerous court battles because she wants his money but don't want the child to see him  WTH??? What is wrong with women nowadays??
We have won most court battles with visitation but it is not about winning or losing.  I just hate it.
Why are children considered weapons????  GROW UP PEOPLE!!!!!!!!  -  Sorry, this just makes me angry.  (and I don't like getting angry)

But let me ask you, would it be different if him and I had a child together???  Let's take a poll  Would he be a great dad as long as we are together but god forbid that we split up, would he be the same way with a child we had together?  He is even so different with my daughter  (remember, I have a child from a previous relationship)  Her father is not in the picture but my fiance is so much different even with her than he is with his own