Is Culture The Unwelcome Ingredient In Marriage?

Last weekend my family on my husband’s side came over to see the baby. I ended up enjoying myself immensely during that gathering which was something of a surprise to me. Why it should surprise me is that I never really know what to expect from that side of the family because we are so different, background, tradition and so on. Im always full of apprehension.

even the way we (South Africans) entertain is completely different to the way Nigerians do. But i’m happy to say that the prospect of holding these gatherings is not as strenuous as it used to feel because I don’t worry about it so much anymore. Anyway one of my brother in-laws that I feel most comfortable with always seems to get into discussion and debate with me every time we meet.

This time it was about culture and inevitably its role in marriage. I feel very strongly about this issue which I think is understandable because it seems to be that African men use culture as an opportunity to get out of responsibility and excuse incompetence. 

Infact I am persuaded that culture is the reason many marriages get into trouble because what is culture and tradition after all. Some rules set by old men who being bored of sitting in the sun decided to think of ways to enslave the females in their lives to their benefit even more. And then it becomes even worse when you marry into a different nationality because suddenly who you are and your history become completely insignificant incomparison to your husband and his background. 

When my husband and I got married, our counsellor told us to take culture out of the equation and use the Bible as the basis to set standards for behaviour in our marriage. And funny enough the men work very hard at misrepresenting this too in order to get their way. Be that as it may, I maintain that it is better to submit to biblical principles and use these as reference for behaviours in marriage than talk about my culture or your culture that has no basis. 

I know this has turned into a bit of a incomprehensible  tantrum on my side but what roles has culture played in your relationships and how have you handled hick ups if it ever created  any?

Husband Wife Love Quotes - Marriage Love quotes

Sweet love quotes for husband and wife. Nice love quotes on marriage to say to your better half.

• Even my child started to walk without any support, nut my wife still holds my hand while walking
  
• A wife is the joy of a man's heart
• Love is moral even without legal marriage, but marriage is immoral without love.
• There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage. - Martin Luther King
• You don't marry someone you can live with, you marry the person who you cannot live without.
• No man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT saying
• A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, and always with the same person. - Mignon McLaughlin
• An archaeologist is the best husband a woman can have. The older she gets the more interested he is in her.
• To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all
• Many marriages would be better if the husband and the wife clearly understood that they are on the same side.
  
• The husband who decides to surprise his wife is often very much surprised himself. ;)
• A good wife is one who serves her husband in the morning like a mother does, loves him in the day like a sister does and pleases him like a prostitute in the night. - Chanakya
• The relationship between husband and wife should be one of closest friends. - B. R. Ambedkar
  
• Whenever I fail as a father or husband... a toy and a diamond always works. - Shah Rukh Khan
• When a husband brings his wife flowers for no reason, there’s a reason. - Molly McGee
• A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband. - Honore De Balzac
• A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband, while a man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.
• After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can’t face each other, but still they stay together.
• At first a woman doesn’t want anything but a husband, but just as soon as she gets one, she wants everything else in the world.- Elbert Hubbard
• At first a woman doesn’t want anything but a husband, but just as soon as she gets one, she wants everything else in the world. - Elbert Hubbard
  
  
• Sometimes I think [my husband] is so amazing that I don't know why he's with me. I don't know whether I'm good enough. But if I make him happy, then I'm everything I want to be. - Angelina Jolie
• In a husband there is only a man; in a married woman there is a man, a father, and mother, and a woman. - Honore de Balzac
• Husbands are like fires - they go out if unattended. - Zsa Zsa Gabor
• A good wife makes a good husband
• Of all the home remedies, a good wife is best.
• When a man opens a car door for his wife, it’s either a new car or a new wife.
• My wife dresses to kill. She cooks the same way. - Henry Youngman
• A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man. - Lana Turner
• No man succeeds without a good woman behind him. Wife or mother, if it is both, he is twice blessed indeed. - Harold Macmillan
  
  
  

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Love life vs Married life : Love and marriage

Love is holding hands in the street.
Marriage is holding arguments in the street.

Love is cuddling on a sofa.
Marriage is one of them sleeping on a sofa.

Love is talking about having children.
Marriage is talking about getting away from children.

Love is going to bed early.
Marriage is going to sleep early.

Love is losing your appetite.
Marriage is losing your figure.

Love is sweet nothing in the ear.
Marriage is sweet nothing in the bank.

TV has no place in love.
Marriage is a fight for remote control.

Love is 1 drink and 2 straws.
Marriage is "Don't you think you've had enough!".

Conclusion: "Love is blind , Marriage is an eye opener!"