You can say the word NO and feel good about it

We go back to healthy selfishness
No is a very simple word. A complete sentence actually. No is one of the shortest words in the english language, yet one of the most difficult for people to say (especially women) Why is it so much easier agree sometimes than to just say what we are really feeling NO!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think saying no for us women sometimes is so hard because of our deeply rooted need for connection. We want to be considerate without jeopardizing the relationships we value or perhaps we are too concerned with being liked or valued

Again, Healthy selfishness is imperative