I really need some inspiration today. I am having an emotional tough time.
A wise old lady once told me that you will go through your whole life and you will be able to count your true friends on one hand.
The older I am getting, the truer that cliche becomes
I think it is time for me to change some people and relationships in my life. I get so tired of being an emotional punching bag for people. :-( I am sad today
Showing posts with label broken relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label broken relationships. Show all posts
Monday, November 22, 2010
Thursday, August 5, 2010
The quality of relationships and friendships
The quality of your relationships has alot to do with your own self-acceptance and self-esteem. Raising them tends to automatically raise the quality of your relationships
Accepting yourself for who you are automatically improves your life to a certain degree
The above quotes are what I am studying now. I have been feeling so good. Life is going so right for me right now (almost too good that it makes me nervous) If you have followed this blog from the beginning, you know I have had some bad days since I started my journey to a happier, more fulfilling life. LOL.
I don't know what to say other than when you change people , places and things and your way of thinking (and believe me, that is the toughest part) I still battle everyday with my inner self. I feel like I have that little devil on one shoulder and the little angel on the other and my mind is right between them. I feel the best that I have in years. and I am being so honest with that. (Now, don't get me wrong, I am consistently reading self help books) I have read probably about 10 in the past couple months.
Oddly enough, the better I feel, the more people want to be around me. I never realized how many people truly like me and love to be around me. My goodness, My text messaging goes off all day long anymore. I realize now that people do truly love to be around me.
Of course, I have changed some of my own relationships. There were a few people in my life that I feel brought me down and I have since distanced myself from those people and you know what I just feel better. I can't describe. The energy, the happier and the overall just improvement in the quality of my life.
Don't get me wrong, I still have bad days but I have good relationships and friendships in my life now and that is so important.
Since I can't ever change the past, have to just work on changing the future :-)
Accepting yourself for who you are automatically improves your life to a certain degree
The above quotes are what I am studying now. I have been feeling so good. Life is going so right for me right now (almost too good that it makes me nervous) If you have followed this blog from the beginning, you know I have had some bad days since I started my journey to a happier, more fulfilling life. LOL.
I don't know what to say other than when you change people , places and things and your way of thinking (and believe me, that is the toughest part) I still battle everyday with my inner self. I feel like I have that little devil on one shoulder and the little angel on the other and my mind is right between them. I feel the best that I have in years. and I am being so honest with that. (Now, don't get me wrong, I am consistently reading self help books) I have read probably about 10 in the past couple months.
Oddly enough, the better I feel, the more people want to be around me. I never realized how many people truly like me and love to be around me. My goodness, My text messaging goes off all day long anymore. I realize now that people do truly love to be around me.
Of course, I have changed some of my own relationships. There were a few people in my life that I feel brought me down and I have since distanced myself from those people and you know what I just feel better. I can't describe. The energy, the happier and the overall just improvement in the quality of my life.
Don't get me wrong, I still have bad days but I have good relationships and friendships in my life now and that is so important.
Since I can't ever change the past, have to just work on changing the future :-)
Monday, July 12, 2010
Looking for love in all the wrong places
Suppose you fall in love with someone outside of your marriage. I am helping a friend through this right now. She is married with 2 children. She has been with her husband for 10 years (She was 20, he 35) when they met. Her children are 7 and 3. She is 30, he 45 now
She had advanced tremendously in her career and as she has grown both emotionally and financially, he has become settled and lazier. She is a mortgage loan officer and had an affair with the owner of her previous company. This has been going on for 6 months (the affair was exposed and her husband does know) He is angry but is so in love with her that he wont leave
Her life is like one big epidode of sex in the city right now.
and the bad part is that I don't think she truly deep inside wants to end her marriage because there is an insecurity there (although, she is very attractive, witty, smart and very successful) She still has insecurities. When she confided that in me, I was a bit surprised because on the outside, she alludes confidence and security.
I think she wants her cake and wants to eat it too. She wants her husband and kids at home but she wants the boyfriend and the excitement also.
She has outgrown her marriage. She feels so guilty inside
God made us all with erotic desires. It is a reality of life. People have affairs everyday. Is it right, Is it moral? We all know the answer is no but does it happen? of course, it does
I think she knows that even if she ended the affair, her marriage could never go back to the way it was. The trust wouldn't be there. Also, if it wasn't this guy that she had an affair with, it probably would have been someone else
Why? not because she is a tramp (she definately isn't) but she was unhappy, there was a huge void
The actions of both her and her lover broke up 2 marriages (whereas children are involved on both sides) has caused alot of damage but yet him and her are still drawn to each other and can't stay away from each other.
I have been doing alot of reading to try and help her (as that is me, I love to help others find solutions to their problems) so I read all about healthy alternatives and ways she could have changed her marriage but than in other books, I read people don't really change unless they want to. So even if she changed, her husband would want to change to.
I think that females that settle down too young have too much of unlived life (which could cause bad decisions to be made)
It is so easy to judge people that have affairs but unless you were in their situation and walked in their shoes, you probably shouldn't judge
There is no perfect person
Has anyone had a similar experience to the one I shared?
Also, I am going to be honest with you here! If you found this blog because you did a search within a search engine for looking for love in all the wrong places, you are in the wrong blog. You should be visiting my relationship blog reading about the stages of a relationship
Here is the link if you wish to read a little more :-)
Of if you just want to laugh, check out my funny facebook status update blog
funniest facebook statuses
Enjoy
She had advanced tremendously in her career and as she has grown both emotionally and financially, he has become settled and lazier. She is a mortgage loan officer and had an affair with the owner of her previous company. This has been going on for 6 months (the affair was exposed and her husband does know) He is angry but is so in love with her that he wont leave
Her life is like one big epidode of sex in the city right now.
and the bad part is that I don't think she truly deep inside wants to end her marriage because there is an insecurity there (although, she is very attractive, witty, smart and very successful) She still has insecurities. When she confided that in me, I was a bit surprised because on the outside, she alludes confidence and security.
I think she wants her cake and wants to eat it too. She wants her husband and kids at home but she wants the boyfriend and the excitement also.
She has outgrown her marriage. She feels so guilty inside
God made us all with erotic desires. It is a reality of life. People have affairs everyday. Is it right, Is it moral? We all know the answer is no but does it happen? of course, it does
I think she knows that even if she ended the affair, her marriage could never go back to the way it was. The trust wouldn't be there. Also, if it wasn't this guy that she had an affair with, it probably would have been someone else
Why? not because she is a tramp (she definately isn't) but she was unhappy, there was a huge void
The actions of both her and her lover broke up 2 marriages (whereas children are involved on both sides) has caused alot of damage but yet him and her are still drawn to each other and can't stay away from each other.
I have been doing alot of reading to try and help her (as that is me, I love to help others find solutions to their problems) so I read all about healthy alternatives and ways she could have changed her marriage but than in other books, I read people don't really change unless they want to. So even if she changed, her husband would want to change to.
I think that females that settle down too young have too much of unlived life (which could cause bad decisions to be made)
It is so easy to judge people that have affairs but unless you were in their situation and walked in their shoes, you probably shouldn't judge
There is no perfect person
Has anyone had a similar experience to the one I shared?
Also, I am going to be honest with you here! If you found this blog because you did a search within a search engine for looking for love in all the wrong places, you are in the wrong blog. You should be visiting my relationship blog reading about the stages of a relationship
Here is the link if you wish to read a little more :-)
Of if you just want to laugh, check out my funny facebook status update blog
funniest facebook statuses
Enjoy
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