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Daily Inspirational Quote- As you read the below, always remember that how you treat others is important. When you judge others, you never know what they are going through Enjoy :-)

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Mean Girls!!! Do females outgrow that stage?

Hello- Hope everyone is having an awesome 2011 so far.
I am!! (well to a certain degree)
I watched mean girls 2 tonight with my 12 year old. The more I discover my true self- the more I realize females sometimes never outgrow this stage. The movie is based on teenage girls and how harsh they can be towards other females. I am at a certain stage in my life that in order to be happy, unfortunately, I need to cut negativity out of my life to a certain degree. I am 34 and I realize just how much some of my friends and family act just like these mean girls. The sad part is that in adults, it is a more sneaky type of attack in females.
Nice to your face, than you turn your back and the knife is stabbed in.

There is a saying that you go through your whole life and by the end of it, you will be able to count your true friends on one hand. The truth in that statement is scary.

I am so tired of phony, fake and downright ignorant females. The healthier I get mentally, the more I see just how evil some people can really be :-(

so it is time to take steps away from that negativity. Some females just never seem to grow up and by giving in to them for so many years, It emotionally drained me. I am happier when I avoid them. Although it does hurt when you feel like you give to people and search for that acceptance and than you come to realize that they just use you anyway.

On another note, my marriage is doing great :-) My daughter is doing wonderful. My mom is getting healthier and I am getting emotionally stronger with each passing day so life is good

I have been slacking a bit on my blog and I am sorry for that. Everyday is a new journey in life :-)

Talk to you soon

Marriage Preparation Classes

Hi everyone.
Sorry, I haven't been on for a week or so.  Been crazy busy.  With the start back of school, doing my partylite business and just basically living everyday life  LOL
So now on day 3 of marriage preparation classes.  This has been a huge help to me. As you know from my previous posts., I have been struggling with this whole marriage thing and my fear of life long committment.  I would so recommend these pre cana classes to anyone
I was dreading them before I went.  (Taking the wrong mental approach and viewing this as another chore)
I just learned so much from it.  It was awesome.
Will post more later tonight
Off to final day of class

Remember, as you read my journey blog, I am going to screw up :-)

I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist. This is just my own diary of searching for inner peace. You are going to see my strive and try to be a philosopher LOL but you are also going to see me mess up but that is because it is my journey.

I want you to join me, help me, work together. It's always best to work together in teams :-) but when I do have a day that I totally screw up, please don't judge me. I am basically a weed that is trying to grow into a flower :-) so be easy on me. Love you all (whether I know you or not) If you are joining my blog to follow along and help me or even just laugh at me as I try (as long as you are laughing with me and not at me) I thank each of you. I need some help. I just don't want to pay a psychiatrist

Motivational Inspiration for the Day

Hi all. What is going to be our motivational quotes of the day

Things to remember and try to focus on
* Relationships are the single most important source of human happiness
* Don't "play games" in your relationship
* Don't be judgemental
* Don't project your feelings onto your partner but love the reality. Acceptance is the key to a happy relationship

What did you do today? I took my daughter (she's a tween LOL) to see Eclipse (the third movie of the Twilight series. Ultimate love story. I look forward to seeing these movies. (Only my daughter switched teams on me, I am still team Edward, she jumped ship to Team Jacob

I loved the part whereas Bella was saying how she didn't want to live a normal life because she wasn't normal :-) Makes you thing

I also loved the part where Charlie (the dad) was trying to discuss sex with Bella (haha)That was great

On the way home in the car, my soon to be 12 year old was talking about Jacob having 8 pack abs (what the heck) First, It was always 6 pack abs. I guess 8 pack abs is modern age (we always want more LOL) than I find myself in the conversation with her about the importance of having value in yourself and saving yourself etc (the whole talk thing) I was so unprepared for that one
so than an awkward silence so than finally I just had to say
Courtney, always remember the old saying- Why buy the milk if you can get the cow for free. She looked at me like I had 10 heads and another awkward silence LOL
I think I need to get better prepared for teenage years haha

(of course, there is now a better saying for women why buy the entire pig for a little sausage) Not going to say that to her of course

Anyhow, have a wonderful night

Remember to laugh everyday

Get the life you deserve without the guilt

Join me for my own journey in finding and keeping the inner peace

Little Breakdown

I had a little breakdown last night :-( so I need double inspiration today (as I am feeling blue)
Spent the day today stressed and anxious so I had to read double today on Healthy Selfishness
Healthy selfishness is a way of thinking and acting in which there is a deep appreciation, compassion, and concern for yourself- by yourself
** Respect your feelings, desires and needs
**trust in yourself, believe in your self. Trust in your own ability and experience
**accept your weaknesses and imperfections without guilt
**Always encourage yourself

Whenver I am down, I love reading about inspiration and just looking up joke. It makes me feel better

It hurts when someone you think is your friend, stabs you in the back

But as my 89 year old boss (who is a very wise woman) always tells me "You will go through your whole life and by the time you are done, you will be able to count your true friends on one hand"
The older I am getting, the more truth I see in that.

She told me this story one time about a woman she knew who died. The woman had pre bought her grave site and premade her funeral arrangements and she gave the funeral parlor a sealed envelope and they were instructed that whenever she died, they needed to open the envelope and put it with the guest book that people signed

The letter said "Where have you been for the past 20 years and if you didn't have time to see me before, don't waste your time now"

I don't really tell the story, the way she tells it because she tells it so well. You get the gist of the meaning though

Healthy selfishness is the key that opens the door to a life of freedom: freedom from being ruled by opinions and demands of others. Freedoms from the voices within your mind, leftovers from your childhook that in the past may have judged and blamed you.

Happy 4th of July Everyone

Hope everyone has some fun, safe things planned for this weekend.

Inspirational Thought of the Day
Failure is one of life's greatest teachers if we choose to learn from it rather than be destroyed by it.

Failure teaches us humility. It shows us that we are not invincible

Failure teaches us that we can't always get what we want.

Failure teaches us to correct our course of action. It forces us to re-evaluate what we are doing.

Failure teaches us that we can indeed survive defeat.

Most of all, failure teaches us about the strength of our own character.

Life lessons for living the way you live

Finding balance and serenity.
How do we do that in today's stressful environment.
How do we reduce stress??
It is a well known fact that stress can be harmful to your health, both physically and emotionally
I went to my 11 year old's dance recital tonight at Baltimore Dance Center. Baltimore Dance Center gives an absolute awesome performance.
I especially love to watch the ballet. The feeling and emotion in the dances is awesome.

There was a ballet number to the song "Concrete Angels" and the expression they put in the dance and their faces was heart wrenching. (for those who know the song, the song dwells on a battered child"

We all just stress so much on the things that mean the least.

Stop making mountains out of molehills.
Appreciate the stability that you do have in your life while coping with the obstacles.

Focus on the positive and always remember that while you think you have it bad, someone, somewhere always has it worse :-(

Finding the place where you belong
The universe is holding it's breath..... Waiting for you to take your place

Growing up, my family was very poor and my father was an abusive drunk and drug addict. He showed void of emotion and was also bulemic and me, my mom and brother suffered from every one of his void emotions. He took his shallow childhood and emptiness out on us with the meanest of hands.

I think the best thing he could have done for us is left us as he did in 1986. He cheated and left. That was most likely a blessing. My mom struggled. Oh how she struggled?? My parents married on 10/10/1971. My brother was born on 05/10/1972. My mom just shy of her 19th birthday and my dad of his 21st. I was born on 10/10/1976. From 1976 and so on, what was life for me?? In short of words, Hell on Earth. My dad left in 1986, I was 10. In 1987, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer and had to have a full mastectomy and full chemo, she was 32, I was 11.
In 1988, my brother was murdered over a $20 marijuana deal. I was 12

Needless to say, my mom nearly had a nervous breakdown. In a 24 month period of time, my mom lost her husband of 20 years, her breast and her son. As a result of all the trauma, sure I suffered emotional losses along the years. (Hell, I didn't choose to be born and I sure don't choose to die- although eventually someday I will) but I do choose my life right here and right now. I get so tired of hearing the old cliche that I did this or that or a crime because I had a bad childhood. Guess what?? That is crap!! When it comes to childhood, mine truly sucked.

Let's fast forward to the present. My mom who has lost her breast, her son, her husband, half a kidney etc is one of the most loving, sympathetic people here on this earth. Guess what, her parents especially her mother was the most cold heartest people around. Her own mother never told her that she loved her until she was 32 years old laying on an operating table getting her breast removed.

I myself has suffered a bad childhood (Nothing nearly as bad as my mom) I did have a bad childhood but you know what??? That is the past and there is nothing I can do to go back and change 1976 to now but I can control my present and future and my daughter's
My mom and I sat and watched Courtney (my daughter- mom's granddaughter) in an absolutely stellar dance performance tonight.

My daughter is into so much (dance, softball, basketball, drama)

and I know that everytime, I look at her. She is the reward of my mother and I (My mother taught me the fighter and positive side). Both my mom and I just glow as we watch her excel in all she does. We relive both our childhood's through Courtney. My only regret is her that I got pregnant at a young age and her father is a deadbeat dad. He is into drugs etc and not in her life but my fiance and I got together when she was five and he has done all the daddy stuff. (althought deep down, I know she feels it) but he has coached all the softball teams, wiped the tears, been to all the dance practices LOL - The mother's at the dance studio know him more than me haha) My fiance has done it all. He is her dad in every shape of the word.

I just hope when my baby gets older that she breaks the vicious cycle with men that both me and my mom went through. Of course, all Courtney's boyfriends have me to go through first (which isn't a pretty sight when it comes to my baby and boys :-) I think I can scare the bad ones away

Although my momhad nothing but trauma in her life, Me and her granddaughter are the wind beneath her wings and my mom is truly my hero

so to make a long story not so short LOL, I don't want to hear, I had a rough childhood so I can't be happy---- That is crap

Take time to laugh everyday, inspire yourself, make time for yourself and your family

Laugh, Love, Forgive, Live

If you read my entire post above, Ironic, my wedding date is 10/10/10
My parents married on 10/10, I was born 10/10, but what I failed to mention is that my fiance and I started dating on 10/10/2004. LOL He proposed 10/10/05 I told him I wanted to marry him but didn't want to marry to 10/10/10 (note: My job that I have worked for since March 16, 1995, I have always been employee #10) I just love the number 10. Well Tim told me back in 2005 that there was no way in h**l that he was waiting until 2010 LOL Guess what, we are going to have the best wedding on 10/10/10 LOL
All the bad memories of my parent's marriage on 1010 are going to be whiped away

Love yourself and love others.

Treat others how you would want to be treated

Inspiration for July 2, 2010

What makes successful people?
Successful people don't find time- They make time

"Time is life. It is irreversible and irreplaceable. To waste your time is to waste your life, but to master your time is to master your life and make the most of it"

Always concentrate on the most valuable use of your time.
This separates the winners from the losers.
What the winners do:
Use Time, spend time wisely, value time, organize their time, treasure time, schedule time and most of all MAKE TIME

What the losers do:
kill time, waste time, lose time, let time slip away, take time for granted
and CAN'T FIND TIME

Of course, I am not saying that anyone who has ever wasted time is a loser, we all do that occasionally. I am just talking about people who waste so much time, they waste alot of valuable life