Friday, July 30, 2010

inspirational Motivatio

Why does it take a tradgedy for people to realize what really matters in life? Dont take what you have for granted it might not be there tomorrow and that will be a real tradgedy!

I really don't have much to type about tonight but I don't want to just type when I have bad days (especially when I search so hard for the inner peace)  The hard part is I type more when I am doing bad.  LOL< the more I study, the more I work at it, the better things are so I don't feel as much to vent

That isn't how I want it;  I want us all to travel together.  I am going to have my really positive weeks but I am also going to have my setbacks  :-(
Let's do a motivational quote.  I still feel that if everyone did this every day  (when you get up, you set a motivation for the day)  people would be in better moods so here is just a tad of motivation

There is only one success......... to be able to spend your life in your own way

Great Love Feelings !!

Love is missing someone whenever you're apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you're close in heart. 
~   Kay Knudsen

You learn to like someone when you find out what makes them laugh, but you can never truly love someone until you find out what makes them cry.
~   Author Unknown

True love is when you put someone on a pedestal, and they fall - but you are there to catch them.

Cute Friendship Poem - A Place In My Heart !!

A Place In My Heart

I  have a friend  that's always thereReady to lend a hand.One who cares about my heartachesAnd seems to understand.Agood friend that I can count onWhen days are so weary.Someone to share my deepest thoughtsWhen nights are so dreary.It seems I never find the wordsTo show appreciationThe sweet friendship that is offeredIs an insiration.With these true words I send my loveAnd

Thursday, July 29, 2010

Maryland Crabs are the BEST- Good week this week

A very good week for me so far.  Everything going on an emotionally good level.  My insomnia issues even seem to be getting better somewhat.  I think this self help journey is helping me.  I haven't had any wine at all this week   LOL.  Not that I have ever been an alcoholic but there have been quite a few times that I have drank wine to help me calm down or sleep.  I am feeling good.  I have enjoyed my time this week.  Although I have been somewhat busy building my partylite business  (I am enjoying doing that also)  These home shows are fun. We play games, I meet new people and make money for just having a party.  It's pretty cool.  There is NO Stress  (Unlike my full time job that will probably end me up in the nutty bin if I don't get out of there  :-(
Me, my daughter, my fiance and my co-worker and her husband went out for crabs tonight.  They were so good and had the best seasoning so that was a nice little get together
I made money in the stock market  (so that made me happy)  
Spent alot of good time with my daughter (that makes me happy)

I don't just want to post about my bad days  :-(   As this is my journal of  my journey

Inspirational quote for the day  
Thank God every morning when you get up that you have something to do which must be done  :-)
Busier people don't have time to be unhappy    That is what I am learning.  
We are all motivated by a keen desire for praise, and the better a man is, the more he is inspired to glory. -Cicero
"A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her." - David Brinkley
"Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally." - David Frost (via eQuotes)

Magical Love Poem !

Love is the greatest feeling, Love is like a play, Love is what I feel for you, Each and every day,
Love is like a smile, Love is like a song, Love is a great emotion, That keeps us going strong,
I love you with my heart, My body and my soul, I love the way I keep loving, Like a love I can't control,
So remember when your eyes meet mine, I love you with all my heart, And I have poured my entire

Admirable Friendship Sayings !

When a friend needs your love, show him you care.If he needs attention, let him know you are there.Be ready to help him when his load becomes hard to bear.Because you can't be a friend until you learn to share.

"Life can give u a hundred reasons to cry, But u can give life a thousand reasons to smile with your friend."

True Friends Are Like Mornings:You Can't Have Them For The Whole Day,

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

True Friendship Poem !

Friends are angelswho bring sunshine and warmthto brighten our days;they give us hope and happinessin many wonderful ways.
They wrap us in their wings,offering comfort and love,and they bring usblessings from above.
Their smiles mysteriouslysummon the sun,and fill our lives withendless fun.
Friends are like angels,an angel like you,and I'm glad that I founda friend in you.
~ Unknown.

Popular Love One liners !

Love is the greatest refreshment in life.
~Pablo Picasso.

True love stories never have endings.
~Richard Bach (Thanks, Bonnie).

You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving.
~ Unknown.

Love is the greatest touch-up artist of all.
~Robert Brault.

Loving is never a waste of time.
~Astrid Alauda.

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Do not be afraid of defeat. You are never so near to victory as when defeated in a good cause. -Henry Ward Beecher

Another Crazy Day at the Office ARGHHH

I really wish I could take a secret camera in my office and videotape and play it all over YouTube so the people acting crazy in the office could see themselves.  I could probably make a million bucks because nobody would believe the things that go on around there.  I couldn't even make the stuff up if I tried.  The one lady throws a fit because there was a mouse in the office and she thinks everyone thinks it is her fault.  Really??  Seriously??  Life is too short.  I don't tolerate temper tantrums from my 11 year old so when you go to work and 40 and 50 year old women are banging, slamming and talking about how stressed they are (Note:  They have no kids, good jobs)  They have no real stress.  It is just ridiculous. 
Everyday, you walk in there and the atmosphere is miserable  frowns frowns
It does something to your inner zen
I told my boss today that we needed to make it office policy that everyday when employees come in, they need to write a motivational inspiring comment for that day and they have to turn it in by 9AM

I would like to just buy a huge supply of ritulin or valium and stick it in people's drinks   LOL

Anyhow, here is some inspiration for today
Trust in yourself.  Your perceptions are often far more accurate than you are willing to believe

OK, off to go bowling.  Subbing again for the team with the little man that cusses and slaps his ears whenever he misses a shot    Yeahhhhhhh   Some humor for the day

Than my show comes on tonight,  Teen Mom-  I just really like that show

Monday, July 26, 2010

Sometimes I feel like I am a bit bipolar

The harder I try, the harder it seems to be to keep a live where I am keeping my inner peace.  I know this sounds crazy but I want that happy feeling.  I don't want medication but I struggle with it.  I still feel anxious alot.  I feel OK but not great, not sad most days but I want to get past just feeling OK. 
I just want to tell someone my phobias and they tell me how to fix them and make the go away  :-(
Somedays, I feel so good but other days, I just want to come home at night and drink more wine than I should than feel like crap the next day.  This is what I want to run away from.  I want to feel even.  I want to actually enjoy the stuff  I am doing and get away from the negative office I work in.  I know I can but I think it all boils back to fear and the need of security  :-(

As the marriage is coming closer also, I am feeling more anxious.  I think that is my whole dreaded fear of being committed or abandoned. 

Romantic Love Sentences !

Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.
~ by Erich Fromm.

Life is the flower of which love is the honey.
~ by Jean Baptiste Alphonse Karr.

Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love you will find

Cool Friendship Thoughts !

"True friendship is one that lasts even though one friend's sole has left this earth."
~ Jennifer.
"A reassuring presence, A LIGHT when times are dark, A hand reaching out, Is what friendship is about."
~ Unknown.
"We always thought we'd look back on our tears and laugh, but we never thought we'd look back on our laughter and cry."
~ Unknown.
When I'm asked what one happy thought is I always

Friday, July 23, 2010

White Christmas

I am dreaming of white Christmas,
with every Christmas card i write,
May your days be merry and bright,
and May all your Christmases be white.
Happy Christmas.

Christmas SMS

A Christmas candle is a lovely thing;
It makes no noise at all,But softly gives itself away;
While quite unselfish,it grows small.

Christmas Quote

May the joy and peace of Christmas be with you all through the Year. 
Wishing you a season of blessings from heaven above. 
Happy Christmas

Christmas SMS

A Christmas candle is a lovely thing;
It makes no noise at all,
But softly gives itself away;
While quite unselfish,
it grows small.

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Adversity a Blessing

A smooth sea never made a skillful mariner, neither do uninterrupted prosperity and success qualify for usefulness and happiness. The storms of adversity, like those of the ocean, rouse the faculties, and excite the invention, prudence, skill and fortitude of the voyager.


What You Learn From Sorrow

I walked a mile with Pleasure,
She chatted me all the way,
But I was none the wiser
For what she had to say.

I walked a mile with Sorrow,
And ne'er a word said she,
But O the things I learned from her
When Sorrow walked with me!


Best Love Messages !

To love someone is nothing. To be loved by someone is something. To love and be loved by someone is everything.

~ Haslinda Haniff.

Through the wind I hear your voice, in the clouds I see your name.
Living life without you just wouldn’t be the same.

~ Unknown.

Once you love, you cannot take it back, cannot undo it. What you felt may have changed, shifted slightly, yet still remains

Bonds Of Friendship !

Bonds of Our friendship !!!

There have been many timesthat I'd lose grip and then fall, And, you were there beside meto help me rise above it all. There have been many timeswhen I'd reach the end of end, And, you inspired meby giving hope to just start over again! YOU INSPIRED ME!

There have been timeswhen I had lost all that I had gained, And, you brought me bright sunshineto send away the

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Funny Inspirational Quote of the Day

Sometimes I just need to laugh. 
I saw this one facebook today and just rolled

The reason the grass seems greener on the other side is because it's been fertilized with bullshit

Merry Christmas to you

Christmas is a time for magic and dreams come true.
Hope yours is filled with lots of fun and sparkle too! 
Merry Christmas to you

Merry X-mas

Lets welcome the year which is fresh and new,
Lets cherish each moment it beholds, 
Lets celebrate this blissful New year. 
Merry X-mas

Chicken Soup to Inspire

"Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood"

"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation"

"Aging forces us to decide what is important in life"  
(The truth in this statement is frightening  :-)

Happy friendship Feelings !

I value the friend who for me finds time on his calendar, but I cherish the friend who for me does not consult his calendar.
~Robert Brault.

I once heard that everyoneneeds someone to be thankful for,someone they can look up to,someone who makes each dayof living more joyousand fulfilling;someone who has the rare abilityto warm the heartand lift the soul.I've found such,a person in you.And the

Magical Love Quotes !

Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.
~Henry Van Dyke.

Only in love are unity and duality not in conflict.
~Rabindranath Tagore.

A hundred hearts would be too fewTo carry all my love for you.
~ Unknown.

You know you're in love when you don't want to fall

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Oh- What a day- Everyday is a journey

My life--  Wow, sometimes I feel like it could be one big reality TV show.  The only difference, it is real, I'm not rich and not getting paid for sharing it  LOL  (again, this is my free therapy)
This is my journey, my real journey in self help.  Everyday can seem like a real challenge. 
There is an old saying "somedays, you eat the bear and somedays, the bear eats you"  The damn bear got me today 
I wake up this morning  (that's a good thing)  I get ready for work and take my daughter to my mom's for the day.  My mom was off today so she babysat.  I go to get in my car from my mom's and the car wont start  (battery died)  so I borrow my mom's car.   On the way to work, I accidentally hit the seat heat on in her car and have no idea how to turn it off.  Riding to work for 22 minutes with the seat making my butt sweat.  (note:  It is summer where I live and has been very hot)  so I get to work and my dress slacks are literally wet on my backside because of the heated seat  (which is leather)
Than I go into the negative office I work in (which if you read my previous blog posts) than you know that I work in a negative office where you have 40 and 50 year old adults throwing temper tantrums and are constant pessimists and I had to get every customer today that took nasty pills  (Seriously, is it necessary to be so nasty to people).  I get yelled at for their real estate taxes increasing  (Note:  We are the mortgage company, I just want to scream  "call your congressman, call your county)  8 hours at that office felt like 20. 
So needless to say, I came home in bad mood   (frowns)
Than, I subbed on my step dads bowling team tonight.  I haven't bowled in a few months.  Didn't bowl too bad   172, 169, 189.  OK  Average 177 (so not bad) but I got a good laugh.  The team was doing bad and there is a little elderly gentleman that bowled on the team and he would get so mad everytime he got an open that he would curse and slap his ears.  I could do nothing but laugh  (not where he could hear me though haha)  I was scared that he might come slap my ears too  LOl

but at least, I laughed.  :-)

With all the stress today (plus I have gained a few pounds since I quit smoking 3 1/2 months ago)  I can feel it in my clothes, I was feeling a bit sorry for myself today.  :-(
Even though, my life is good right now compared to so many others out there

Everyday is a mental journey to me.  I often feel people take advantage of my niceness.  I really need to work on the healthy selfishness bit.

I am feeling a bit stressed tonight.  My mom hasn't been in good health recently  (If you read my previous posts than you know about the cancer and her past life)  She is such a great person.  I am taking her to get an endoscopy tomorrow.  Keep her in your prayers for me.

I have had too much loss in my life and my mom is truly the wind beneath my wings.  She has survived a hard life but is yet one of the sweetest, kindest people you can meet.

I hope all is OK.  She has lost like 40 pounds in 6 months.  She is looking frail.  She has had alot of tests done recently and nothing is coming back wrong.  Hopefully, the endoscopy shows us something.  I feel something is not right and very worried. 

Cross your fingers for me

Somedays are good, somedays are bad but in all honesty, nobody really wants to hear about my hardships.  Only when I am joking and laughing.  That is why I love writing on this blog.  I can just talk. Nobody has to read it but I feel I talked about it and it helps me.  It is the diary of my life  (kind of like the diary of a madman)  only I am female

Smiles-  Good Nite All

If you really knew me

Wow, I am watching this show right now on MTV called If you really knew me. I think this is the season premiere of it.  It is so powerful in words.
"If you really knew me"  What a powerful quote that is

For a bunch of great inspirational quotes, visit the home page of the blog
Here is the link

or if you just feel like laughing tonight, check out my blog with funny facebook jokes Here is the link

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Real Friendship Quotes !

There is one friend in the life of each of us who seems not a separate person, however dear and beloved, but an expansion, an interpretation, of one's self, the very meaning of one's soul.

~Edith Wharton.

If instead of a gem, or even a flower, we should cast the gift of a loving thought into the heart of a friend, that would be giving as the angels give.

~George MacDonald.

A Sweet Love Poem !

With All My Heart !
I never really believed,In this whole "love" thing,But when I first saw your face,I could hear my heart sing.
That sweet smile on your face,The gentle look in your eye,Just one look at you,And I could hear myself sigh.
I gathered my courage,And walked right up to you,From that day foward,I knew it was true.
We just started out as friends,And talking on the phone,But I

Monday, July 19, 2010

Inspiration from Facebook

I love facebook.  I am like a total facebook addict.  I have reconnected with so many people from high school etc and I read so many funny things on there and inspirational also  :-)  Saw this quote tonight and I liked it. 

There comes a time in life when you walk away from all the pointless drama and people who create it, and surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus on the good. Life is too short to be anything but happy.

Manic Monday!!! New scam to be on alert for

Oh my, Monday's can be such a downer sometimes.  (especially when you go into an office that half the staff are pessimists)  I keep telling myself that I will be out of this 9 to 5 rut soon!!!  Hard Work, Hard Work

After work was nice, my daughter and I went to get a manicure and pedicure.  We enjoy that and it is some quality time together

Didn't go jogging today because it was just too darn hot out.  Hard to go jogging in almost 100 degree weather.  I guess I could have done some exercise in the house but reality (no excuses LOL)  I was just too damn lazy tonight.   That negative office I work in can drain me mentally sometimes.  (actually, the whole mortgage business can be downright draining sometimes).

On another note, here is my inspiration for today that I want to share with you 

"If it's to be, It is up to me"
Take 100% accountability for where your life happens to land at this moment. Don't be a victim, be a victor!

Also, a scam for all female drivers to be on alert for   (Here is an email forward that I received today"

Subject: New scary warning for women driving alone

;Ladies please take note of the following gang initiation tactic, >please discuss with female colleagues who do not have email

BE ALERT: Wayne County Sheriff's Department - VERY IMPORTANT FOR >WOMEN TO READ .

On the way to Canton , driving on Michigan Avenue , on Thursday >morning, I saw an infant car seat on the side of the road with a >blanket draped over it. I did not stop, even though I had all kinds >of thoughts running through my head. But when I got to my >destination, I called the Canton PD and they were going to check it >out. This is what I was told...

"Several things to be aware of .. gangs and thieves, are now >plotting different ways to get a person to "stop" their vehicle.

"There is a gang initiation reported by the local police department >that gangs are placing a car seat by the road...with a fake baby in..waiting for a woman, of course, to stop and check on the baby.
Note that the location of this car seat will usually be beside a wooded or grassy (field) area ...and the person - woman - will be dragged into the woods- beaten and raped- usually left for dead. DO NOT STOP . DIAL 9-1-1 AND REPORT WHAT YOU SAW.


Please talk to your loved ones about this. This is a new tactic used >and I would hate for anyone to fall victim to this kind of crime.

Please be safe

Happy Monday to all

Interesting Love Thoughts !

There is no surprise more magical than the surprise of being loved. It is God's finger on man's shoulder.
~Charles Morgan.

You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip.

~Jonathan Carroll, "Outside the Dog Museum"

Love is much like a wild rose, beautiful and calm, but

Best Friendship Poem !

Some of the happiest times of my lifeAre times you and I spend together.For deep in my heart I've considered you special-One of my dearest friends ever...
Time after time I've enjoyed your nice company,Warmed by your closeness we share,And when there were daysThat I needed encouragement,I knew you'd always be there…
Time and again I've been ever so gratefulFor having a good friend like you-A

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Awesome Rest and Recharge Day

I had a do nothing day today  :-)  I actually watched about 12 episodes of the show of Teen Mom on MTV.  That was an awesome show.  My daughter watched a few episodes with me.  She will be 12 in September and I think that is a great show for young girls to watch
There are too many babies having babies in the world and hopefully, the show helps younger girls realize that parenthood is hard and helps to promote abstinence and safe sex

Still working on getting the partylite business kicked off. 

"Life is not about finding yourself, it is about creating yourself"

Found this one today and it is very true

Friday, July 16, 2010

Short motivational quotations By Napoleon Hill

Ideas are the beginning points of all fortunes.Fears are nothing more than a state of mind.No man is ever whipped until he quits in his own mind.Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.The man who does more than he is paid for will soon be paid for more than he does.The ladder of success is never crowded at the top.Reduce your plan to writing. The moment

Joy of Summertime and watching children play

My daughter has a friend sleeping over tonight. It is one of her best girlfriends from school. They haven't seen each other in like a month so the talking and giggling is nonstop (LOL- Instant headache) They have been swimming all night. We ordered some pizzas and getting ready to settle in for a movie shortly.

Nothing brings me more joy than seeing huge smiles on my daughter's face.

This is my motivation for the day. Watching my baby enjoy her childhood and making good memories.

Have a great weekend   (My daughter and her bff night swimming)    So much fun!!!!!

Amazing Friendship Thoughts !

"The most I can do for my friend is simply to be his friend. I have no wealth to bestow on him. If he knows that I am happy in loving him, he will want no other reward. Is not friendship divine in this?"
~ Henry David Thoreau.

"Friendship without self interest is one of the rare and beautiful things in life."
~ James Francis Byrnes.

"Life is partly what we make it, and partly what is made

Genuine Love Sentences !

Love withers under constraints: its very essence is liberty: it is compatible neither with obedience, jealousy, nor fear: it is there most pure, perfect, and unlimited where its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve.
~Percy Bysshe Shelley.

The arms of love encompass you with your present, your past, your future, the arms of love gather you together.
~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry,

Thursday, July 15, 2010

The song Freebird and the affect Freebird it has on me

Wow. Just got done writing my life story down as I am searching for self help. I do the exercises ( as I write on my blog) so I went outside the whole exercise and wrote my whole life story. I cried, I laughed, I did what I needed to do for myself to move on.
Of course, I didn't do this until my daughter went to bed at 9 30.than I hit on the stereo down low (that helps me in my writing)
Well wrote my story Cried and Laughed than was getting ready to log off and the song "freebird" came on by Lynard Skynnard. We played that song and "Never Say Goodbye" by Bonjovi at my brothers funeral in 1988. We let balloons go. Those 2 songs have always been extremely hard songs for me but tonight was weird, I haven't heard Freebird in a long time but right as I wrote my life story, cried and ready to move on to live my unlived life, I go to turn off the stereo and freebird comes on. Well of course, I can't turn it off and I just listen and cry again. He died in 1988 and I can never lose the sadness of his loss. Is it normal at this point 22 years later. It's not normal to still mourn as I do
Reading makes a full man, conversation a ready man, and writing an exact man. -Bacon

Remember, as you read my journey blog, I am going to screw up :-)

I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist. This is just my own diary of searching for inner peace. You are going to see my strive and try to be a philosopher LOL but you are also going to see me mess up but that is because it is my journey.

I want you to join me, help me, work together. It's always best to work together in teams :-) but when I do have a day that I totally screw up, please don't judge me. I am basically a weed that is trying to grow into a flower :-) so be easy on me. Love you all (whether I know you or not) If you are joining my blog to follow along and help me or even just laugh at me as I try (as long as you are laughing with me and not at me) I thank each of you. I need some help. I just don't want to pay a psychiatrist

Hard to find balance with an overwhelming smell of deviled eggs

Hard to find balance with an overwhelming smell of deviled eggs

Goofy post huh?? Wouldn't be if you were at my house right now. We are having an office party (customer appreciation) at work tomorrow and I just had to make 4 dozen of deviled eggs ARGHHH. If I smell another egg tonight, I am going to seriously puke LOL Don't get me wrong. I love deviled eggs but I wont be able to eat them for a while now

Hard to keep a level, balanced head when egg smell clogs you up but I am going to try tonight.

I am still on studying my unlived life so that is where tonights inspirational motivation hails from. From all the research I have been doing and just different motivational soul searching mental exercises, I have self diagnosed myself with a trust issue. I think I have had so much hurt and disappointment in younger years that I have a very hard time letting people get too close to me. I have lots of friends but I always have that barrier.
How do I get past that? How do I let go of those insecurities?

The following are my goals:
to surrender old limitations

Enhance friendships, family and career

Mastering the art of feeling truly alive in the present needs and respecting and caring for my own inner needs (back to healthy selfishness)

Everyday I work at the inner peace thing, I exercise more, I try to remove myself from stressful situations and not dwell but the more I work at this, the more it feels like a job.

How can it just flow naturally
Excellence is not an act but a habit. The things you do the most are the things you will do best. -Marva Collins

Interesting Friendship Messages !

A loyal friend laughs at your jokes when they're not so good, and sympathizes with your problems when they're not so bad.
~Arnold H. Glasgow.

The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.
~Elisabeth Foley.

We have been friends togetherIn sunshine and in shade.
~Caroline Sheridan Norton.

Friendship is one mind in two bodies.

Famous Love Quotes !

To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness.
~Robert Brault.

Passion makes the world go round. Love just makes it a safer place.
~Ice T, The Ice Opinion, quoted in Reader's Digest, "Quotable Quotes," February 2002

Love doesn't sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all of the time, made new.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Finding yourself in today's complicated world

Answer the following questions

What are your strengths?

What do you love about yourself?

What do you stand for?

What do you love most about your family and kids?

What do you love most about you?

Who is the best you?

Write a description of who you are. Write your own story.
When you read your own story, do you focus on the positive and negative? Do you dwell on your strengths or your weaknesses? What is your perspective?

Now go back and rewrite your story.

Happiness begins when you learn to accept the fact that you are loved and valued for who you are, not what you do

Inspirational Quote of the Day

"Everything depends upon execution; having just a vision is no solution."

Coping with failure

In midlife, we come face to face with our failures and losses. As we age, we are confronted by limitations. We may remain on the sufrace of life or we many learn that existence is much deeper and less controllable.

Great Friendship Quotes !

Friends are family you choose for yourself.
~ Unknown.

Sometimes our hearts get tangledAnd our souls a little off-kilterFriends and family can set us rightAnd help guide us back to the light.
~Sera Christann.

The best kind of friend is the one you could sit on a porch with, never saying a word, and walk away feeling like that was the best conversation you've had.
~ Unknown.

The language of

Lovely Love Sentences !

When love is not madness, it is not love.
~Pedro Calderon de la Barca.

Let your love be like the misty rains, coming softly, but flooding the river.
~Malagasy Proverb.

Love one another and you will be happy. It's as simple and as difficult as that.
~Michael Leunig.

Shall we compare our hearts to a garden -with beautiful blooms, straggling weeds,swooping birds and sunshine, rain -and most

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

All about me

I tell bits and pieces of myself in different posts. I wont come out and tell my life all in one because I have to build a trust. I will tell you this. Did I have a tough childhood? YES Have I blamed any bad actions on that childhood? NOOO Do I blame that bad childhood for the strong, independent person I am today? YES. It taught me to fight. I knew it wasn't right and I didn't cower beside it and follow I knew I Wanted better in life and that I deserved so much better so I went after dreams, I worked hard, I made a life for myself and my family. That is me That is who I am
There is a saying " I'm a child, I'm a daughter, I'm a lover, I'm a mother and I am a protector. I guess mold all that together and that is me. Hurt my child or my family and watch the mean person I can become. When things are good, I focus on self help and helping people but don't strike close to me because the old side of me (that I keep buried away- The old city side) will come out. I am a mother, I protect my young. I am a wife (or soon to be wife) I protect the spouse. I protect our home. I don't want anything causing disruptions within our walls. I protect that

I listen to the awful storm right now and I think of my sleeping family. My dog and cat laying next to me sleeping. Each waiting to go into big bed 2 sleep. My precious daughter asleep and my fiance (god bless him) It is his birthday and he is sick as a dog. Poor Timmy
I love my family
Success has a simple formula: do your best, and people may like it. -Sam Ewing
If A equals success, then the formula is A equals X plus Y and Z, with X being work, Y play, and Z keeping your mouth shut. -Einstein


"Some men are afraid to lay up treasures in heaven for fear they will never see them again." By Charles G. Bellah

The future is purchased at the price of vision in the present. --Samuel Johnson

"What the future could hold, and what each of us could become, is limitted mainly by what we believe." - Gloria Steinem

The best thing about the future is that it comes only one day at a time. --ABRAHAM LINCOLN (1809–1865)

You can say the word NO and feel good about it

We go back to healthy selfishness
No is a very simple word. A complete sentence actually. No is one of the shortest words in the english language, yet one of the most difficult for people to say (especially women) Why is it so much easier agree sometimes than to just say what we are really feeling NO!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think saying no for us women sometimes is so hard because of our deeply rooted need for connection. We want to be considerate without jeopardizing the relationships we value or perhaps we are too concerned with being liked or valued

Again, Healthy selfishness is imperative

Romantic Love Thoughts !

Love is a symbol of eternity. It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end.
~ Unknown.

Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind,And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.
~William Shakespeare, Mid-Summer Night's Dream, 1595.

The hours I spend with you I look upon as sort of a perfumed garden, a dim twilight, and a fountain singing to

True Friendship Statements !

"Friends are the angels who lift us to our feetwhen our wings have trouble remembering how to fly."
~ Unknown.

If you're alone, I'll be your shadow. If you want to cry, I'll be your shoulder. If you want a hug, I'll be your pillow. If you need to be happy, I'll be your smile. But anytime you need a friend, I'll just be me.
~ Unknown.

Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay

Monday, July 12, 2010

Looking for love in all the wrong places

Suppose you fall in love with someone outside of your marriage. I am helping a friend through this right now. She is married with 2 children. She has been with her husband for 10 years (She was 20, he 35) when they met. Her children are 7 and 3. She is 30, he 45 now
She had advanced tremendously in her career and as she has grown both emotionally and financially, he has become settled and lazier. She is a mortgage loan officer and had an affair with the owner of her previous company. This has been going on for 6 months (the affair was exposed and her husband does know) He is angry but is so in love with her that he wont leave
Her life is like one big epidode of sex in the city right now.
and the bad part is that I don't think she truly deep inside wants to end her marriage because there is an insecurity there (although, she is very attractive, witty, smart and very successful) She still has insecurities. When she confided that in me, I was a bit surprised because on the outside, she alludes confidence and security.
I think she wants her cake and wants to eat it too. She wants her husband and kids at home but she wants the boyfriend and the excitement also.
She has outgrown her marriage. She feels so guilty inside

God made us all with erotic desires. It is a reality of life. People have affairs everyday. Is it right, Is it moral? We all know the answer is no but does it happen? of course, it does

I think she knows that even if she ended the affair, her marriage could never go back to the way it was. The trust wouldn't be there. Also, if it wasn't this guy that she had an affair with, it probably would have been someone else

Why? not because she is a tramp (she definately isn't) but she was unhappy, there was a huge void

The actions of both her and her lover broke up 2 marriages (whereas children are involved on both sides) has caused alot of damage but yet him and her are still drawn to each other and can't stay away from each other.

I have been doing alot of reading to try and help her (as that is me, I love to help others find solutions to their problems) so I read all about healthy alternatives and ways she could have changed her marriage but than in other books, I read people don't really change unless they want to. So even if she changed, her husband would want to change to.

I think that females that settle down too young have too much of unlived life (which could cause bad decisions to be made)

It is so easy to judge people that have affairs but unless you were in their situation and walked in their shoes, you probably shouldn't judge

There is no perfect person

Has anyone had a similar experience to the one I shared?

Also, I am going to be honest with you here! If you found this blog because you did a search within a search engine for looking for love in all the wrong places, you are in the wrong blog. You should be visiting my relationship blog reading about the stages of a relationship
Here is the link if you wish to read a little more :-)

Of if you just want to laugh, check out my funny facebook status update blog
funniest facebook statuses


Whatever is bright &
beautiful, whatever means
the most to you, whatever
brings Ü happiness, these
are the things i wish for you
& your family.MERRY

Funny Christmas Text Messages

Small Boy wrote to Santa Claus,”please santa send me a brother”
Santa wrote back,

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Free Crockpot Recipe of the Day

Free crockpot recipe of the day
Pizza Potatoes
6 medium potatoes, sliced
1 large onion (thinly sliced)
2 tablespoons olive oil
2 cups grated mozzarella cheese
2 ounces sliced pepperoni
1 tablespoon salt
8 ounce can of pizza sauce

* Saute potato and onion slices in oil in skillet until onions appear transparent Drain Well
* In crockpot, combine potatos, onions, cheese, pepperoni and salt
* Pour pizza sauce over top
* Cover- Cook on low 6 to 7 hours or until potatos are soft

and that is your free crockpot recipe of the day

What is happiness?

What is happiness?

Start a happiness diary.Write down all the time you feel happy and give the reason if you can work it out. You will discover things about your own happiness that will astonish you.

If you feel extremely happy, you are extremely happy but here is something interesting to remember. If you feel fed up or depressed, you may not be as low as you think. When depressed people are asked to keep a "happiness diary" Keeping a note of everytime they feel happy and why. They can often fill the entire page a day

Funny Cat Quotes

These are some Funny Quotes About Cats

Do not meddle in the affairs of cats, for they are subtle and will urinate on your computer.
~ Unknown

If animals could speak the dog would be a a blundering outspoken fellow, but the cat would have the rare grace of never saying a word too much.
~ Mark Twain

I can't use Windows. My cat ate my mouse.

God made the cat in order that humankind might have the pleasure of caressing the tiger.
~ Fernand Mery

People who take cat naps don't usually sleep in a cat's cradle.

In a cat's eye, all things belong to cats.
~ English Proverb

When I played in the sandbox the cat kept covering me up.
~ Rodney Dangerfield

Dogs have owners, cats have staff.
~ Unknown

Thousands of years ago, cats were worshipped as gods. Cats have never forgotten this.
~ Anonymous

No amount of time can erase the memory of a good cat, and no amount of masking tape can ever totally remove his fur from your couch.
~ Leo Dworken

Every dog has his day - but the nights are reserved for the cats
~ Unknown

Cats know how to obtain food without labor, shelter without confinement, and love without penalties.
~ W. L. George

If you hold a cat by the tail you learn things you cannot learn any other way.
~Mark Twain

Cats are kindly masters, just so long as you remember your place.
~ Paul Gray

Cats are intended to teach us that not everything in nature has a purpose.
~ Garrison Keillor

If man could be crossed with the cat it would improve man, but it would deteriorate the cat.
~ Mark Twain

The cat, having sat upon a hot stove lid, will not sit upon a hot stove lid again. But he won't sit upon a cold stove lid, either.
~Mark Twain

A cat is there when you call her - if she doesn't have anything better to do
~Bill Adler

The trouble with cats is that they've got no tact.
~ P. G. Wodehouse

The cat has too much spirit to have no heart
~Ernest Menaul

The little furry buggers are just deep, deep wells you throw all your emotions into.
~Bruce Schimmel

Most beds sleep up to six cats. Ten cats without the owner.

You can't own a cat. The best you can do is be partners.
~ Sir Harry Swanson

As every cat owner knows, nobody owns a cat.
~ Ellen Perry Berkeley

In the middle of a world that has always been a bit mad, the cat walks with confidence.
~Roseanne Anderson

If a cat does something, we call it instinct; if we do the same thing, for the same reason, we call it intelligence. ~Will Cuppy

A cat is a puzzle for which there is no solution.
~ Hazel Nicholson

Cats were put into the world to disprove the dogma that all things were created to serve man.
~Paul Gray

If you are worthy of its affection, a cat will be your friend but never your slave.
~Theophile Gautier

By associating with the cat one only risks becoming richer.
~ Colette

When you are looking, a cat acts like a princess, but the minute they think you are not looking, a cat acts like a fool.
~ KC Buffington

Saturday, July 10, 2010

Inspirational Motivation Test

Questions to ask yourself
What or who inspires you and why? Are you living according to what inspires you the most?
What was your childhood dream and what happened to it?
What changes would you need to make to ensure that what inspires you becomes more of a guiding principle in your life?

Test for the upcoming week: Pay attention this week to the things that claim your interest. Notice if any of these things draw your attention because they inspire you.

Let me know how you do

Inspirational Words of Encouragement for Today

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We were all meant to shine, as children do.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same
As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

Good Morning all
Hope everyone is enjoying their saturday morning. Rainy day here today. I was so glad to see the rain this morning. It has been so hot and dry here. The grass was starting to turn brown (Yuck, a downer) plus, once in a while, I like to have a morning where I have an excuse to lay around and do nothing like watch TV in my PJ's AWESOME :-)

Friday, July 9, 2010

Daily Positive Thoughts

Daily positive thought for the day

After a long day at work today, I am finally home. I need a little positive thinking this evening. I am a mortgage processor for a small Savings and Loan. I have been there for 15 years and when you work at a small place, you learn to wear many hats.
One of the employees called out sick today (when it was her Friday to work late) Different employees alternate. She is one of the tellers and we were so busy today because we were closed yesterday for an annual employee outing. She was overheard saying she was going down the beach this weekend and she was drinking in the hot sun yesterday.
Well, needless to say, our office only had 10 employees in it and 3 other ones were out today already (scheduled vacation) so this girl calls out. The thing that really ticked me off is that I really doubt that she was sick.
We all call out at times when we aren't really sick but when you know we are already going to be shorthanded and you call out and stick the other girl (who has been having severe back problems) to work late for you, it is just rude. If she wasn't in the hospital, she should have been there today.
I almost want to tell her that we need a doctor's note from her. (She seems to call out alot on Fridays and Mondays)

I try to tell myself that she is only 23 and it is age etc (you know doing all my positive thinking) but it is still rude and inconsiderate and left a big burden on us other employees.

Now, I am going to have to call her in for a sit down on Monday with the vice president and talk about absenteeism etc (as she has only been employed with us for about 9 months) This needs to be nipped in the bud.

Anyhow, let's do our daily positive thoughts

No matter who you are or what your age may be, if you want to achieve permanent, sustaining success, the motivation that will drive you toward that goal must come from within

and that is our daily positive thought

TGIF now time for a little wine, a little facebook and a little "me" time

Happy, Happy Friday

Let's also real quick do a funny thought of the day

Always borrow money from a pessimist; he doesn’t expect to be paid back.

Beautiful Love Messages !

Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
~   Robert Heinlein.

Absence diminishes small loves and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and fans the bonfire.
~   François Duc de La Rochefoucauld.

My debt to you, Belovèd,Is one I cannot payIn any coin of any realmOn any reckoning day.
~   Jessie B. Rittenhouse.

A bell is no

Popular Friendship Thoughts !

A good friend is a connection to life - a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world.
~   Lois Wyse.

"As love feels through the heart, friendship sees through the eyes."
~   Andrea Chu.

A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down.
~    Arnold Glasow.

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Motivational Inspiration for the Day

Hi all. What is going to be our motivational quotes of the day

Things to remember and try to focus on
* Relationships are the single most important source of human happiness
* Don't "play games" in your relationship
* Don't be judgemental
* Don't project your feelings onto your partner but love the reality. Acceptance is the key to a happy relationship

What did you do today? I took my daughter (she's a tween LOL) to see Eclipse (the third movie of the Twilight series. Ultimate love story. I look forward to seeing these movies. (Only my daughter switched teams on me, I am still team Edward, she jumped ship to Team Jacob

I loved the part whereas Bella was saying how she didn't want to live a normal life because she wasn't normal :-) Makes you thing

I also loved the part where Charlie (the dad) was trying to discuss sex with Bella (haha)That was great

On the way home in the car, my soon to be 12 year old was talking about Jacob having 8 pack abs (what the heck) First, It was always 6 pack abs. I guess 8 pack abs is modern age (we always want more LOL) than I find myself in the conversation with her about the importance of having value in yourself and saving yourself etc (the whole talk thing) I was so unprepared for that one
so than an awkward silence so than finally I just had to say
Courtney, always remember the old saying- Why buy the milk if you can get the cow for free. She looked at me like I had 10 heads and another awkward silence LOL
I think I need to get better prepared for teenage years haha

(of course, there is now a better saying for women why buy the entire pig for a little sausage) Not going to say that to her of course

Anyhow, have a wonderful night

Remember to laugh everyday

Get the life you deserve without the guilt

Join me for my own journey in finding and keeping the inner peace

Twelve Christmas Wishes for You

1. A Bunch Of Hugs From Me
2. A Stocking Full Of Smiles
3. A Star Of Love Upon The Tree
4. A Christmas That’s Worthwhile
5. A New Year Full Of Peace
6. A Cup Of Good Cheer
7. Presents Under The Tree
8. Happiness In The New Year
9. A Life Of Good Health
10. A Lot More Hugs From Me
11. A Computer That Never Fails
12. And Loads More Hugs From Me

I told Santa I wanted you for CHRISTMAS

If one night a big fat man jumps in at your window
grabs you and puts you in a sack
don’t worry
I told Santa I wanted you for CHRISTMAS

I hope you have a wonderful christmas

I hope you have a wonderful christmas . have a great new year !
Hopefully santa will be extra good to you . enjoy your holidays !

True Love Sentences !

The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.
~   Mother Teresa

Love has no desire but to fulfill itself. To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.
~   Kahlil Gibran

Love - a wildly misunderstood although highly desirable malfunction of the heart

Genuine Friendship Sentences !

“Even though we've changed and we're all finding our own place in the world, we all know that when the tears fall or the smile spreads across our face, we'll come to each other because no matter where this crazy world takes us, nothing will ever change so much to the point where we're not all still friends.”
~   Unknown.

The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Awesome partylite starter show tonight

I have the most awesome friends, family and co-workers. As you may have read from my last post, I went back into the partylite business. I had my starter show tonight and I had the most amazing turnout. My friends, family and co-workers (who also fall into friends category) are just so supportive. It's awesome and we had a margarita party. Kids and husbands were in yard in pool. (and it was a hot one today) and me and the ladies sipped margaritas, saw an awesome partylite display, laughed and had an awesome time.
They are the best so today's quote is about friendship and family

"The most important things in life are your friends, family, health, good humor and a positive attitude towards life. If you have these then you have everything!"

Going to take my daughter to see Eclipse tomorrow (the movie), very excited. I love those movies but didn't want to go last week because I knew movie theatres would be packed

Good Nite All

Friendship Smile Cards, Your Friendship Bring Smiles To Me

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Friendship Smile Cards, Your Friendship Bring Smiles To Me

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Friendship Week Cards, Free Friendship Week eCards

Friendship is a wonderful bond bringing close to each other to share happiness, sadness, fun and challenges of life. Enjoy the sweet bond of friends by celebrating Friendship Week giving seven reasons to celebrate whole seven days of the week. For all such requirements, we offer these Friendship Week Cards for free to exchange their true bond of friendship.
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Rose For My Friend, A Friendship Rose for You

Flowers bring sweetness & beauty when people exchange feelings, sentiments and emotions. Explore our gallery of free ecards for the coming friendship day celebrations to give Rose For My Friend. The glittering roses both red rose and yellow rose can be presented to share happiness of the day meant for friends to cheer up their close friendship.
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Rose For My Friend, A Friendship Rose for You

Flowers bring sweetness & beauty when people exchange feelings, sentiments and emotions. Explore our gallery of free ecards for the coming friendship day celebrations to give Rose For My Friend. The glittering roses both red rose and yellow rose can be presented to share happiness of the day meant for friends to cheer up their close friendship.
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Friendship Love Cards, I Love Our Friendship

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Best Friend Quotes, Best Friend Myspace Quotes

Best friends are source of strength to face ups and downs of life. They add energy in ourselves to understand and tackle with problems coming in business, relations, profession, family and others. Lets cheer our close friendship by sharing these Best Friend Quotes designed specially for great bond of friends to exchange their feelings for each other on this Happy Friendship Day.
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Best Friend Quotes, Best Friend Myspace Quotes

Best friends are source of strength to face ups and downs of life. They add energy in ourselves to understand and tackle with problems coming in business, relations, profession, family and others. Lets cheer our close friendship by sharing these Best Friend Quotes designed specially for great bond of friends to exchange their feelings for each other on this Happy Friendship Day.
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Best Love Stories And Love Quotes !

A man daily sent a rose to his wife. One day he died, but his wife still received roses. She asked the floweriest. He said, your husband paid advance for your whole life.MORAL: Love someone forever.
~ Unknown.
A boy loved a girl so much. One day he proposed her. But she refused.Still he was not sad. His friends asked him, didn't you feel bad? He said, why should I feel? I lost the one who

Meaningful Friendship Quotes !

In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.

~Albert Schweitzer.

Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand.

~Emily Kimbrough.

Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Much better today

Ok so feeling much better today. Spending the evening last night reading really helped me put things back into focus.
Don't have alot of time this evening. I have my unit meeting for my partylite business so have to run. My fiance is growling at me because I am sort of forcing him to go to meeting with me. He is supposed to be helping me with this side business but how can you help with a business if you don't know what the business is selling LOL. Of course, he wont be doing the home shows and presentations, I will but he needs to know something about the business to market it duh!!!!!!!!!!!!!! haha. He can be sharp as a beachball sometimes

but just a question and thought for the day

What is the story you are telling yourself about what is happening in your life? What is the reality?

That is something I am struggling with a bit lately. Especially with the upcoming wedding and I think I have a total fear of total committment

My life has been too complicated LOL I think I should write a book

Maybe I just have a trust issue

As time goes on and I get more comfortable with my inner feelings, I will share more.

If I don't get back on tonight, hope all have a wonderful evening.

True Love Statements !

Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.

~ by Erich Fromm.

Life is the flower of which love is the honey.

~ by Jean Baptiste Alphonse Karr.

Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love you

True Friendship Thoughts !

Friendship with oneself is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.

~ Unknown.

Treat your friends as you do your pictures and place them in their best light.

~ Unknown.

Friendship is delicate as a glass, once broken it can be fixed but there will always be cracks.

~ Unknown.

He who has a thousand friends has not a friend to spare, And he

Monday, July 5, 2010

Little Breakdown

I had a little breakdown last night :-( so I need double inspiration today (as I am feeling blue)
Spent the day today stressed and anxious so I had to read double today on Healthy Selfishness
Healthy selfishness is a way of thinking and acting in which there is a deep appreciation, compassion, and concern for yourself- by yourself
** Respect your feelings, desires and needs
**trust in yourself, believe in your self. Trust in your own ability and experience
**accept your weaknesses and imperfections without guilt
**Always encourage yourself

Whenver I am down, I love reading about inspiration and just looking up joke. It makes me feel better

It hurts when someone you think is your friend, stabs you in the back

But as my 89 year old boss (who is a very wise woman) always tells me "You will go through your whole life and by the time you are done, you will be able to count your true friends on one hand"
The older I am getting, the more truth I see in that.

She told me this story one time about a woman she knew who died. The woman had pre bought her grave site and premade her funeral arrangements and she gave the funeral parlor a sealed envelope and they were instructed that whenever she died, they needed to open the envelope and put it with the guest book that people signed

The letter said "Where have you been for the past 20 years and if you didn't have time to see me before, don't waste your time now"

I don't really tell the story, the way she tells it because she tells it so well. You get the gist of the meaning though

Healthy selfishness is the key that opens the door to a life of freedom: freedom from being ruled by opinions and demands of others. Freedoms from the voices within your mind, leftovers from your childhook that in the past may have judged and blamed you.

Self Image and Self Esteem How do they fit together?

There is a time in our lives when both our self image and our self esteem are determined by other people. When we are little, our lives are dominated by adults and older kids. We see ourselves as they tell us we are. Good messages, good self-image and vice versa with Bad messages. We respond to what we hear the most. We form a picture of who we are and build our image around that. We tend to become that
As we get older, we need to realize that we have a choice who we become. We mold our ownselves.

Romantic Love Poem !!

To love is to share life togetherto build special plans just for twoto work side by sideand then smile with prideas one by one, dreams all come true.
To love is to help and encouragewith smiles and sincere words of praiseto take time to shareto listen and carein tender, affectionate ways.
To love is to have someone specialone who you can always dependto be there through the yearssharing

Popular Friendship Messages !

"I value the friend who finds time on his calendar, but I cherish the friend who for me does not consult his calendar."

~ Robert Brault.

"Rekindled friendships often burn more brightly."

~ Karen Burns.

 Hold a friend's hand through times of trial, Let her find love through a hug and a smile, But also know when it is time to go- For each and every one of us must learn to grow.


Sunday, July 4, 2010

Happy Independence Day

Humans tend to be creatures of habit. We like our routines, and often our lives run in grooves. There is not nothing wrong with indulging in the familiar, it provides a sense of security in our lives. But a life of routine can also become predictable and boring.It can hinder us from the learning the ability to respond freshly when new ideas and situations present themselves

Saturday, July 3, 2010

Learning to Love your Life

As you have read from my previous posts, I didn't have the best of childhoods. I am really going through a self help stage in my life right now. (not that I ever hated life or lived life badly) but I have a daughter whom I love very much and I have worked so hard for so many years. I am tired right now and just want to relax more in my life and take the time to enjoy my only child and enjoy my life. I've noticed that over the past few years, I tend to use alchohol more to relax and have fun when I should be enjoying life in different ways. LOL- you know it is bad when you go to a 4th of July party and everyone around you is getting drunk (and you take a book with you and get more joy by just relaxing in the nice weather, reading, carrying on some conversation and just watching your child swim and play. (The only bad part was I realized just how annoying people are when they get drunk ) LOL Now, don't get me wrong, I am not anywhere near a saint but just realized that I don't need to drink at a party to enjoy myself. That was an awesome feeling (except for the fact that my fiance drank way too much beer and again, it is annoying being around someone drunk when you are not haha but not going to throw stones

Anyhow, as I enjoyed my reading today in the beautiful weather, I thought of some things that were just inspiring to me in my own journey to learning to love my life. My goal is going to be start keeping a journal. Writing down my dreams, reflections and things that I discover along the way. Set my goals.

Ask yourself, do you have a dream or something that you would like to accomplish for either yourself or your family? What steps can you take to make that happen?

You have to trust your inner knowing. If you have a clear mind, you wont have to search for direction. Direction will come to you.

Surround yourself with people that inspire you. Cleanse your life (as you would cleanse your body) Get rid of the toxins. Change people, places and things. Avoid the negative.

As you go through life, you will navigate through the lost and found dreams. Never give up. Always pay attention to your surroundings.

Hope everyone is having a great weekend and enjoying your time here. Enjoying your friends and family.

Don't take life for granted :-))
You cannot dream yourself into a character. You must hammer and forge yourself one. -Froude

Happy 4th of July Everyone

Hope everyone has some fun, safe things planned for this weekend.

Inspirational Thought of the Day
Failure is one of life's greatest teachers if we choose to learn from it rather than be destroyed by it.

Failure teaches us humility. It shows us that we are not invincible

Failure teaches us that we can't always get what we want.

Failure teaches us to correct our course of action. It forces us to re-evaluate what we are doing.

Failure teaches us that we can indeed survive defeat.

Most of all, failure teaches us about the strength of our own character.

Friday, July 2, 2010

My life now

Ok, so I just left on one heck of a post of my childhood but I didn't touch on my adulthood much other than me getting married on 10/10/10 I have a wonderful fiance who has cared for my daughter as she was his own,has been with me through my mental insecurities (which include recently finding out about a sister I never knew I had) That is a whole story in itself so you will need to bookmark me to come back and read that whole story (too tired tonight to post) But my life is good right now and I am protective of my family. Those that are close to me always remain protected in heart

Life lessons for living the way you live

Finding balance and serenity.
How do we do that in today's stressful environment.
How do we reduce stress??
It is a well known fact that stress can be harmful to your health, both physically and emotionally
I went to my 11 year old's dance recital tonight at Baltimore Dance Center. Baltimore Dance Center gives an absolute awesome performance.
I especially love to watch the ballet. The feeling and emotion in the dances is awesome.

There was a ballet number to the song "Concrete Angels" and the expression they put in the dance and their faces was heart wrenching. (for those who know the song, the song dwells on a battered child"

We all just stress so much on the things that mean the least.

Stop making mountains out of molehills.
Appreciate the stability that you do have in your life while coping with the obstacles.

Focus on the positive and always remember that while you think you have it bad, someone, somewhere always has it worse :-(

Finding the place where you belong
The universe is holding it's breath..... Waiting for you to take your place

Growing up, my family was very poor and my father was an abusive drunk and drug addict. He showed void of emotion and was also bulemic and me, my mom and brother suffered from every one of his void emotions. He took his shallow childhood and emptiness out on us with the meanest of hands.

I think the best thing he could have done for us is left us as he did in 1986. He cheated and left. That was most likely a blessing. My mom struggled. Oh how she struggled?? My parents married on 10/10/1971. My brother was born on 05/10/1972. My mom just shy of her 19th birthday and my dad of his 21st. I was born on 10/10/1976. From 1976 and so on, what was life for me?? In short of words, Hell on Earth. My dad left in 1986, I was 10. In 1987, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer and had to have a full mastectomy and full chemo, she was 32, I was 11.
In 1988, my brother was murdered over a $20 marijuana deal. I was 12

Needless to say, my mom nearly had a nervous breakdown. In a 24 month period of time, my mom lost her husband of 20 years, her breast and her son. As a result of all the trauma, sure I suffered emotional losses along the years. (Hell, I didn't choose to be born and I sure don't choose to die- although eventually someday I will) but I do choose my life right here and right now. I get so tired of hearing the old cliche that I did this or that or a crime because I had a bad childhood. Guess what?? That is crap!! When it comes to childhood, mine truly sucked.

Let's fast forward to the present. My mom who has lost her breast, her son, her husband, half a kidney etc is one of the most loving, sympathetic people here on this earth. Guess what, her parents especially her mother was the most cold heartest people around. Her own mother never told her that she loved her until she was 32 years old laying on an operating table getting her breast removed.

I myself has suffered a bad childhood (Nothing nearly as bad as my mom) I did have a bad childhood but you know what??? That is the past and there is nothing I can do to go back and change 1976 to now but I can control my present and future and my daughter's
My mom and I sat and watched Courtney (my daughter- mom's granddaughter) in an absolutely stellar dance performance tonight.

My daughter is into so much (dance, softball, basketball, drama)

and I know that everytime, I look at her. She is the reward of my mother and I (My mother taught me the fighter and positive side). Both my mom and I just glow as we watch her excel in all she does. We relive both our childhood's through Courtney. My only regret is her that I got pregnant at a young age and her father is a deadbeat dad. He is into drugs etc and not in her life but my fiance and I got together when she was five and he has done all the daddy stuff. (althought deep down, I know she feels it) but he has coached all the softball teams, wiped the tears, been to all the dance practices LOL - The mother's at the dance studio know him more than me haha) My fiance has done it all. He is her dad in every shape of the word.

I just hope when my baby gets older that she breaks the vicious cycle with men that both me and my mom went through. Of course, all Courtney's boyfriends have me to go through first (which isn't a pretty sight when it comes to my baby and boys :-) I think I can scare the bad ones away

Although my momhad nothing but trauma in her life, Me and her granddaughter are the wind beneath her wings and my mom is truly my hero

so to make a long story not so short LOL, I don't want to hear, I had a rough childhood so I can't be happy---- That is crap

Take time to laugh everyday, inspire yourself, make time for yourself and your family

Laugh, Love, Forgive, Live

If you read my entire post above, Ironic, my wedding date is 10/10/10
My parents married on 10/10, I was born 10/10, but what I failed to mention is that my fiance and I started dating on 10/10/2004. LOL He proposed 10/10/05 I told him I wanted to marry him but didn't want to marry to 10/10/10 (note: My job that I have worked for since March 16, 1995, I have always been employee #10) I just love the number 10. Well Tim told me back in 2005 that there was no way in h**l that he was waiting until 2010 LOL Guess what, we are going to have the best wedding on 10/10/10 LOL
All the bad memories of my parent's marriage on 1010 are going to be whiped away

Love yourself and love others.

Treat others how you would want to be treated

Inspiration for July 2, 2010

What makes successful people?
Successful people don't find time- They make time

"Time is life. It is irreversible and irreplaceable. To waste your time is to waste your life, but to master your time is to master your life and make the most of it"

Always concentrate on the most valuable use of your time.
This separates the winners from the losers.
What the winners do:
Use Time, spend time wisely, value time, organize their time, treasure time, schedule time and most of all MAKE TIME

What the losers do:
kill time, waste time, lose time, let time slip away, take time for granted

Of course, I am not saying that anyone who has ever wasted time is a loser, we all do that occasionally. I am just talking about people who waste so much time, they waste alot of valuable life

Lovely Love Notes!

Your love keeps me strong
Your love keeps me going
Without your love
I wouldn't know what in world I was doing
Your love is sweet
your love is pure
without your love I would die for sure
your love is different
your love is strange
without your love my life would greatly change
your love is ours
your love is mine
without your love the sun wouldn't shine.

~ Unknown.

Best Friendship Sentences !

A friend is a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen, and a heart to comfort.

~ Blake.

"Keep your friends in your heart and your enemies in your sight."

~ Dana.

"As we grow older, things must change, but they don't always have to end. Even though it is different now, you will always be my friend"

~ Stefanie Starlett.

"The teardrop from heaven that travels homeward to the ocean is

Thursday, July 1, 2010

To keep your secret is wisdom; but to expect others to keep it is folly. -O.W. Holmes
Content makes poor men rich; discontent makes rich men poor. -Benjamin Franklin

Wonderful Friendship Quotes !

"At times when I feel all alone I think of you, and my heart heads home. Memories path will have no end, when shared with you, my wonderful friend."

~ Sara.

It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, a hour to like someone, and a day to fall in love with someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

~ Melia and Crackie Friends Forever!

A friend is a shoulder to lean on, an

Great Love Thoughts !

"All our young lives we search for someone to love, someone who makes us complete. We choose partners and change partners. We dance to a song of heartbreak and hope, all the while wondering if somewhere and somehow there is someone searching for us."

~ The Wonder Years.

"You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back."

~ Barbara DeAngelis.

"My wish upon this shooting
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